The ReaL PaRenThooD

sometimes, things in life is really funny. 

it's like.. u have been trying and wishing so hard to get there.. yet when u finally did get there, actually, u'd prefer it to be where it was orginally.

uh-huh. too abstract and cannot understand?

haha. 

i've heard many times that the best time to take care of babies, is when they are just newborn. all they do is eat and sleep, fuss-free. when rayous was at that stage, i did not agree with that at all. as a newborn, he was fragile and did not really respond to the surroundings. so i was hoping that he can quickly grow bigger and it'll be easier to take care. 

and then when he was a newborn, we had to hold him very carefully when bathing him. quite tedious cuz have to support him and grab him. then, i was telling MIL that it will be easier to bath him when he grows bigger and can support himself. 

and then when he was a newborn, he would wake up in the middle of the night, wanting to be fed. so i was hoping and convincing myself (and everyone else) that it will be better once he reaches 6mths and start eating stuff other than milk. 

and then now that he is at 6months.... 

how wrong was i to think that things will get better when he's bigger! 

apparently, taking care of him is much tougher now cuz he will toss and turn. u cant just leave him alone somewhere. and he will start grabbing anything that he can grab! and he will pull ur hair, pull ur specs, whack u... etc etc. and.... u have to give him ur full attention, cuz when u dont.... he will just whine and whine and whine till u give ur attention to him! 

and bathing him is a lot more challenging cuz his legs will kick kick kick kiccccccckk. be prepared for a big splash time when bathing him! and same goes for changing diaper and clothes.. he will just toss and turn and toss and turn and it's sooo much more difficult to change him now! 

and then.. the ultimate nightmare. i had always tot that he will be able to sleep thru once he reaches 6mths old and eating semi solid stuff.. who knows... it's worse worse off than before! apparently after he started weaning, he's been waking up almost every hour at night!! 

believe it or not!! 

this is no joke at all. his waking up every hour is killing me (and MIL!). so much so that i was down with fever and had 2days mc this week! im super deprived of sleep and body aching everywhere! 

and feeding him is also not as simple. the 1st time round was ok. but subsequently, his pattern came liao. eat abit then refused to eat... cry.. struggle to move around... etc etc.... and MIL was so discouraged when he simply refused to eat the 愛心 porridge that she cooked for him. 

see?? 

still tot things will get better as he grows... who knows..... haiizzz. 

no wonder everyone was stunned when i declared that i want 4 children. apparently, the 1st 6mths is honeymoon. now then is the real start to parenthood!!! 

woohoo!

really.. all these are things which i hadnt anticipated... and worse, they are contrary to what i had anticipated. what irony! 

so that's life huh. u tot u will be better off when u r there, who knows, u r actually worse off. ha.

and i bet.. anyone reading this post with older children will be sneering at me and saying... 'wait till he can start crawling and walking..' 'wait till he's at terrible two'... 'wait till he goes to school...'. 'wait till he's at puberty age..'etc etc.... 

ohh hoho... parenthood!