ThE PreGGies

ahahahaha. how often do u get 2 preggie ladies in the same team? esp coming from a small team like mine. lucky we were from different sub-teams, else headache for boss. lol

her EDD is one month earlier than mine. and she's already on her maternity leave liao. hehehe.

and that kind of reminded me, when one of the colleagues got preggie last year, she bought the dept a cake to guess her baby's gender. and this was the photo taken. and now, both of us are preggie. haha. maybe the cake got power. =p

lol

Pregnancy - The Moment of Knowing

ok, as said previously, we planned for pregnancy immediately after marriage. of cuz, we did not conceive immediately. so we were just trying and waiting and yes, we did time the ovulation timing.

now, honestly i think our education system is not robust enough. or perhaps, it was taught during biology class in higher secondary/pre-u/uni, in which i was never a bio student. but i dont remember being taught at all, that in order to get pregnant, u actually have to meet the ovulation period! if you are not in the ovulation period, then likely you will not succeed in conceiving. what the hell? how come no one told me that at all? so i was in the blind all these while, thinking that pregnancy can and will happen anytime with intercourse. wtf?

ok anyway, we were trying. and month by month, i will update hubb simply by telling him whether the auntie came or not. so came the month, whereby i told him 'tada, we failed and gotta try harder again, cuz my auntie is coming'. yup. i honestly tot my auntie was coming, because like every other months, there were streaks of blood already.

and so, i tot it was another failed month. until..... the actual auntie never really came. it was always just small streaks of blood. hubb was saying, maybe we succeeded already and kept suggesting that we buy the test-kits, but i kept telling him it was not possible becuz those blood were obviously signs of auntie coming!! 

and.. it really wasnt until my breasts started to get sore, that i started to doubt about the auntie and yes, maybe we had already succeeded. 

so, off we went to watsons to get the test-kits. we bought 2 clear-blue. then went home and try. and... the lines started to form... one line formed first, and slowly, the 2nd line started forming too. so....... it's positive!! 

yes, we tried both kits!!

i tell you, the moment, was not happy nor sad. rather, it's like a state of disbelief and questioning. it's like -- 'omg, is this for real? how huh??'. 

yes, despite wanting and being ready, when we really learnt about it, this was the reaction i had! it really was a moment of 'oh no... how??????'

and really, we did not know how. i did not tell my mum or sis. somehow, i just didnt want to tell anyone about it. we knew we needed to consult a doctor - but will a GP do? probably not. so we on the computer and started searching for O&G. and i tell you, apparently, NO O&G works on a sunday! yeah, 9 nov was a sunday and no one was available to see me.. =(

so we had to wait till monday before we can call and find a gyane to consult. meanwhile, it continued to be a state of disbelief plus a pinch of worrisome and a tinge of anxiety. it really wasnt happy or excitement. i also wonder why i werent all that happy in knowing. lol. and hubb wasnt that happy too. he was quite cool about it i remb, not really the kind of happiness and wow-ness which i was expecting. 

and, believe it or not, we went ahead to buy a third kit to test again! this time we tried a different brand - the guardian brand. lol. and yes, it's still positive =)

**** to be continued**** 

Pregnancy - The Decision

alright, it's actually not so much a decision of 'want kids' or 'no kids'. rather, it's a decision of 'when to have kids'. this was a question posted to me by one of our friend, married about a year ahead of us. she was asking me 'how do you know that it's time to have a baby?' 

if i take a time review of my life so far, im definitely a 中规中矩 person - i will define myself as one who does not deviate too much from the norms of life. im never exceptionally good, nor am i exceptionally bad. i completed my pri/sec/pre-u/uni studies. ive gotten a decent job. then i've got my house. then i got hitched. and the only right thing to do next, is to have babies! so, my life has always been within norm, and having babies or not has never really been a question. Rather, it's just natural to me. 

yes, im a pro-babies person. 

there are people around me who are 'anti-babies' for all kinds of reasons. some will say it's a terrible world, why bring more lives here to suffer. some will say they dont even have enough for their own, how to provide for babies. some will say they enjoy the freedom and spending power and couple-ship and are not going to have to give up any of that.. blah blah blah... 

sure, very valid reasons. but to me, husband and wife will always be just a couple, never a 'family'. and the crux of the whole issue is, there is a time essence. if you missed the time frame, u missed the time frame. there is no way u can turn back the clock and say that 'yes, i want to have a baby now!'. 

you get what i mean?

so back to the question posted - 'when do you know that it's time for a baby?' 1st thing 1st, u have to determine if you want babies or not. being me who do not deviate in life, yes, i know i want babies. and so is hubb. good, the consensus reached. so when? 

yes. immediately. to be honest, we tried immediately after marriage.

afterall, we had been in courtship for 10yrs before we tie the knot. we had travelled to many places and had spent more than enough time being a couple. needing 二人世界 is not an excuse for us. and, i have heard of so many cases where couples tried for a very long period of time before they conceived. so... since we do want children, why delay? 

and we even had a plan. we told ourselves that we will try for a year. if still no results within a year, we will consult a doctor. 

but luckily for us, on 9 nov, we tested, and it was positive!!! 

這絕對不是理所當然。孩子是上天賜的禮物。感謝上天肯賜給我們。

but despite being a pro-babies person, there is a word of advice - never stress yourself into the decision of having a baby. do it when and ONLY when you are ready and when you really want. DO NOT be stressed by anyone or anything. ultimately, this is a big decision which will really change your life for good. in fact, from the moment you know you have conceived, life has already changed. and you will be the one going through it - physically, mentally, financially -  not anybody else. so, really really do not let anyone psycho u into having a baby. it will be a turmoil and you will not be able to come to terms with the sacrifices you have to make, if you are not even ready. 

and of cuz, when you eventually do conceived, do not blame anyone else except yourself and your spouse. because it is a decision made b/w the 2 (hopefully!) of you and you just have to bear responsible for it. if you are not ready, then it's really just too bad. 

yup. so, creating lives is never a easy decision. be ready!! 

*** to be continued ***

Happy Mother's Day!

@ paradise inn marina sq =) 

Wedding Actual DaY NiGhT

and so, after solemnisation, was to change a hair-do, to prepare for the actual dinner!! 

our banquet room - simpor junior ballroom

there were a number of decorations themes to choose from, and we chose the golden and red theme. from the table cloth, seats covers, platings to the march-in music and 1st course fan-fare music, we get to choose and select from a range of selections. for wedding favors, we took the letter openers and pens. most decent looking among the many others like locks, luggage tags etc.

the menu. mum was kidda worried w the food portion and taste, but in the end, it turned out quite well from her feedbacks. heng ah. 

the sisters and brothers, all ready @ the reception

and one hiccup, cuz we had 2 guest-books, but in the end, only 1 was filled up, the other was empty cuz i think it wasnt being laid on the table. urgh. and the many colorful pens which i bought were not used, cuz apparently, the pens could not write on the paper material on the guest book. urrrghh again. lucky still got the golden markers and pens. 

@ the reception. initially i was still pondering if i should appear at the reception, or should i only appear at the grand entrance during the 1st march-in. but then, think about it, reception was the only time when i could have the time to talk to the guests. and c'mon, the guests took their time off to come and send you the congratulations, how can you as the host not be there during the reception? so.. much as i wanted to remain mysterious and not appear until only the last min, i still appeared lahh. lol. 

and then.... waiting for the grand entrance! hahah. quite funny actually, cuz looking down the ballrooms aisle, there were other couples at other ballrooms waiting for their entrance too. lol. 

and while we were waiting excitedly outside, our emcees were busy with their roles inside

and then the moment.. =)

honestly when the doors opened, i practically could see nothing except for the path in front of us. din expect it to be soooo pitch dark lah. and it really were the 

pple who were standing right in front whom i can see. cant see those behind at all. 

the cake-cutting ceremony

cheerz!

and shortly after, it was time to change for our 2nd march in! cheong ahhhh!

and that were us, waiting outside again, and peeping at the morning hi-lights done by our bridal shop. we din get a chance to watch it before hand,  the guests really get to watch them 1st hand.

the second march in! 

one thing which i did not realised until the actual day arrived ie. the gowns really cannot be too long!! my gowns were a little too long, so during the march-in, i had to keep holding on to them so that i would not stepped on them. as a result, i was restrained from waving to my guests. 

the champagn popping!

the champagn pouring

the 'jiao-bei-jiu'

yummmmmmm sengggggg!!!!

and then the giving of speech.  and yes, i did rehearse my speech way way before the wedding day. cuz i dont wanna end up not knowing what to say or cry like mad during my speech. so i made sure i was super ready for the speech. 

photo-takings!

and 1 thing which i also kidda regret ie. changing into the kua too early. i was very gun chong in changing to the kua that day, kept worrying that there will not be enough time for me change. so right after the round tables photo-takings, i immediately went to change to qua.  actually many photos were taken for the white gown and kua during the day already. i really should have taken more pics with the purple gown instead. 

and i was really glad ah kang was there throughout. hehehhehe

and lastly, the guests send-off

and some of the pics which were taken by the photo-booth which we engaged. the deal was quite good actually, personalised border, wordings, unlimited prints and hardcopies, and we get to get back all the softcopies. the softcopies are also uploaded at their facebook - lifesparks photography. the coordinator whom i had been liasing with had been very accomodating too. but i thought the staff they sent that day abit un-smiley, especially the ladies who were in charge of printing out the photos, if i remb correctly. 

my MUA and photographer

actually the photo-booth was really something extra only lah. come to think about it, we should have saved the money and just made my photographer worked more, isint it? since it's all in the package already, should have just asked him to keep taking pics for us. 

but nowadays, photo-booths are like a 'must-have' during weddings. good to have lah, let the guests have something to do during the reception. but my guests v ke-qi, in the end took only about 150+ pics only. since unlimited prints, should have just kept taking. 

ok, and so that's about all for the wedding day - from morning, solemnisation, to night. both hubb and i agreed that it was a super fun day and if time could rewind, we dont mind going through that day all over again!! 

glad not much hiccups and things went along the way we wanted it. also very happy that most of our guests did turn up as agreed. it was soo good to have all our loved ones there to witness and bless our union. 

and so, sooo much planning and money spending just for that day. and now, another chapter of our lives is unveiling... 

P.R.E.G.N.A.N.C.Y

will definitely share more in the upcoming posts.